admin Having and maintaining healthy relationships are like jobs that are worked on 365 days a year 7 days a week and every bit of 24 hours a day. Here are 5 tips on how to keep your relationship together and keep it fresh.
Tip #1 Communication is imperative
You will hear it time and time again on the internet or in books but it is true and I will elaborate. Whenever two people rose in different households and with different upbringing come together to form a relationship they are bound to clash in one way or another. Talking to each other about these differences will help the other to understand it better. Talk and listen to what the other has to say and its imperative to put yourself in the others shoes. You may not agree but at least you may get to the root of the issue and can deal with it from there.
Tip #2 Say I love you (if you mean it) with your words and with your body!
It’s one thing to say I love you, those words are important to hear for both involved whether you’re 25 or 85, but showing it comes hard for a lot of us. Playing with your girl’s hair or a firm grasp of the waist line are just a couple of subtle signs for men to use. Ladies have it a little tougher because most men are figures of strength and that foofy foofy stuff doesn’t really affect us (yeah right we need it too). Grab his butt! Yeah I said it, grab a hand full just for fun, it shows interest and we need that from time to time. Other things for women is play with his hair or head (if he has none), and grabbing him from behind laying your head on his back is a really good showing of emotion. Men are for the most part visual so you can use your imagination to fill in some areas there.
Tip #3 Spend time
I know it’s tough in this economy and with busy schedules. But a date night could be a picnic or camp out in the back yard, or you even start a new TV series together (True blood would be my suggestion). Time is equally important as each of these tips. If you don’t have the time MAKE IT. It greatly improves the health of your relationship.
Tip #4 Be open emotionally
A great quote on this tip comes from Dr. Seuss, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”. I know right, go ahead Dr. Seuss! This is one of the powerful ways to keep a relationship together. Let your significant other in without the fear of getting hurt. You have to be strong enough, the both of you, to allow your partner to help you unpack any baggage that you may have.
Tip #5 Don’t have all the answers!
Last but definitely not least, nobody likes a “know it all” and the same holds true in a relationship. Sometimes it’s OK to be wrong, that’s how life lessons are learned. Falling only means learning to get up. This is an extremely hard one for most of us, especially when you love the one who you are allowing to fall. But if you come to the rescue all the time you will continue to have to come to the rescue and your significant other will never learn.
Being in a relationship is like looking into that mirror that shows every flaw, everything beautiful, and one that can show you your future. It’s up to you how you handle seeing these things that you may have never seen before. It is hard work but worth it for the right one. What do you think?